Screw the worlds standards!

It seems like every where we go now, we are constantly being surrounded with someone or something screaming at us on how we should be beautiful.

So let me ask a question:

What is beauty?
If beauty is a size 0 jeans, stick thin and blonde blue eyed supermodel, then the truth is most of us don't fit into that group.
So does that make us ugly?
Look around you. How many people do you see that are perfect? You can go up to the person you consider to have the most perfect figure, and I bet you that they will still find something about themselves they don't like and want to change. What does that tell you?

Sadly enough however, many women and young girls are falling into the lie that if they are beautiful, blonde, and stick thin, they will be more liked. They believe that if they become beautiful in the world's eyes, the will be perfect.
THIS IS A LIE!!!!!!
Think about how much time you spend in the morning getting ready. Think about how long you spend in front of the mirror scrutinizing every little thing about you. All of that is focused on you, and lies you are believing. Selfishness leads to bondage ladies.

The more time you spend focused on what you want to change, that's all you begin to think about. You become enslaved to it. Now your every thought is what am I going to eat? What do I wear to school tomorrow? How many calories are in this cookie? Should I lose ten pounds to be liked by the other girls at school? Why don't I look like her?
And pretty soon, before you know it, you become a slave to those thoughts, which in turn lead to actions that you will find yourself a prisoner to. A simple diet or calorie cut is the birthing point for eating disorders to form. "Oh this is easy" you tell yourself. "I'm not hurting anything, it's just a simple diet." But the more time you agonize about it, the more and more you cut out of your diet, the quicker you fall into eating disorders.
And sister, if you play with the fire, you're gonna get burned.

Even after four years on anorexia, I still didn't look the way I wanted to. Sure, I changed, yes I lost a lot of weight, but when it came down to it, I was still the same person. Who I was inside hadn't changed. You can only do so much before you realize that even after years of starving yourself, nothing you do anymore will change what you want to be changed. When it comes down to it, sure you want to change the way you look, but you are also hoping that by doing that you will change who you are inside too. One of the reasons more and more women are falling into this bondage, is because they hear that little voice in the back of their head. The voice that tells them that if they could just lose that weight, just fit into that dress size, just become like that supermodel, then they will have everything in life.
Again, that is a lie; a lie from the father of lies.

Eating disorders are more than just a battle of beauty, but it's a whole psychological
battle too. It all comes down to what you are believing about yourself. If you look in the mirror and tell yourself you're fat, you're gonna believe that. It becomes this tape that replays always in your head, and before you know it you are locked in this cage of bondage, fear, and self-loathing, and it seems like there is no way out.
But there is a way out.

Think about what 1 Peter says about your beauty:

"It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from the inside you--the beauty of a gentle and quite spirit. That beauty will never disappear, and it is worth very much to God. It was the same with the holy women who lived long ago and followed God. They made themselves beautiful in that way."


Screw the world's standards

This is one of my most favorite verses of all time. :]

"Do not conform to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to see what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God."

Another version says it in a cool way too :

"Don't change yourselves to be like the people of this world. But be changed inside yourselves with a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to decide and accept what God wants for you. You will be able to know and things are good and pleasing to God and what things are perfect."

Like it says in Romans 12, let God transform you inside out, let Him change the way you think; about yourself, about your beauty. Focus on letting him transform you into the beautiful woman he wants you to be, stop conforming to the worlds standards. Do not conform any longer, cuz what this world has to offer will only fade away, but the spirt of who we are will never fade. Let your beauty be something of your heart and mind, not they way you should look from the mall or supermodels.

By saying you are ugly, or wishing you could change, you're saying you don't like the way you were made, don't like how you were created. That's like slapping God in the face! He made you just the way he wanted you, he spent time and effort into creating this wonderful piece of art. He is the master Creator! You would never go up to a painter and tell him that his painting is ugly and he should change it. But that is EXACTLY what we are doing when we look in the mirror and don't like what we see and want to change it. Four years of anorexia did change my body, but inside I was still broken and searching. It's who you are INSIDE that God sees more than anyone else, and he sees it all and still loves you. He sees the deepest part of you, everything you want to hide, and he still looks at you and calls you he beautiful princess. How many people do you know that would still do that?

Proverbs 31:30
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."


It's time we stop believing the lies the world tells us about our beauty. A size 0 is not everything in life ladies. It's time we step out of this bondage, out of the fear, and into the living hope Christ has for us. Jesus loves you no matter what you look like, no matter what you have done, no matter what has been done to you. He loves you and created something amazingly beautiful.
Please please please do not think you are a mistake!! You have a plan and purpose in life, you are not a random chance of fate. Step into freedom.

It's time for us to be free.